SHOW NOTES – Reneau Peurifoy ( EP. 007)

0:00 – Intro Music

0:26 – Affirmation:

“I was not delivered unto this world in defeat, nor does failure course in my veins. I am not a sheep waiting to be prodded by my shepherd. I am a lion and I refuse to talk, to walk, to sleep with the sheep. I will hear not those who weep and complain, for their disease is contagious. Let them join the sheep. The slaughterhouse of failure is not my destiny.” 

  • Og Mandio, The Greatest Salesman in the World.

https://www.amazon.ca/Greatest-Salesman-World-Og-Mandino/dp/055327757X

1:00 – Intro to Reneau

  • Author, speaker and educator
  • Author of several books surrounding emotions and mental health
  • Most recent is Anger: Taming the beast
  • Favourite Quote: “in life pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional”

2:55 – What is anger. How do you deal with it? 

  • Broad view of anger, you experience it everyday
  • Low level is irritation, high level is rage. Same emotion, it just depends on the level.
  • Anger is a normal human reaction.
  • Provides motivation and energy to settle conflicts and take care of yourself as long as it’s not being expressed inappropriately.
  • It’s important to minimize negative reactions, maximize positive reactions.
  • Anger is about threat. Response to being threatened. Anger or fear. If it’s unmanageable, it becomes fear. If it’s manageable one becomes angry to get rid of it.
  • We may see threats where there aren’t any.
  • Triggers from the past can cause anger. Things from your past can trigger threat.
  • When you’re sick, tired or stressed you don’t reason as well as when you’re calm. You don’t think as clearly, and you may become angry.
  • It’s easier to learn when to keep quiet and try to deal with it when you’re feeling better.
  • Emotions are just a message that there is a need. Negative emotions mean there was a loss, and positive emotions means something was fulfilled.
  • Emotions are just information.
  • Act on the emotion, don’t act it out. Respond, don’t react.
  • Recognize patterns, find resolve.

12:50 – Core Beliefs

  • Core beliefs that shape your interpretations of the world were developed by a little kid. For some people that never changes.
  • Never stop growing and maturing.
  • Really shape the actions about how we react to things.
  • What it means to be a man or a woman. What are relationships about? What is success? What is life after death? Shape the reactions we have to other people
  • We are distracted from our core beliefs by media and technology. It’s necessary to unplug sometimes and spend less time with electronics.
  • Beneficial to examine your core beliefs, and what they mean to you. Self-examine, and reflect.

15:20 – Anger: Taming the Beast – Human Behaviour and emotions

  • Can we control our anger?
  • What are some of the things that can cause anger?
  • What anger is appropriate? Is the level appropriate? Will it cause another person harm?
  • Recognize how we’re behaving towards something.
  • People will downplay their anger.
  • Anger can give people social power
  • Fear, and making people afraid of your anger can give you a certain level of control.
  • People will minimize the consequences of their behaviour. They may say “what’s the big deal?”
  • People will modify their behaviour around people of authority. People will consider the consequences.
  • As an adult, you can manage your emotions and control your behaviour. Keep in mind your actions, and your behaviour.
  • Challenge your should / must thinking.
  • When people feel vulnerable, they become defensive, and resort to something that makes them feel strong. Convert to anger for strength.
  • Fight or flight when faced with confrontation.
  • Learn to become okay with embarrassment and making mistakes.
  • If someone’s behaviour is irrational, it’s because their beliefs are irrational.
  • Ask yourself why you’re feeling threatened.
  • Many people will label certain emotions as “taboo” so they resort to anger to cover it up. Find a way to let go of this way of thinking

29:52 – Emotions and children.

  • Children model behaviour from the people in their lives.
  • Discover the child’s “theme” How can you encourage a child in that theme?
  • Build their confidence and communicate effectively with them about their strengths and weaknesses.
  • How can you give them structure to deal with these insecurities?
  • Build confidence.
  • Teachable vs unteachable moments.
  • Success comes with the quality of your relationship.
  • Encouragement and support is necessary.
  • Spend time with your kids and develop a relationship
  • Don’t be irrational.
  • Share your experiences
  • There will always be difficult moments with children
  • There’s always another tomorrow.

36:40 – How Reneau has added value

  • Private practice for 20 years
  • Taught at college for 15 years
  • Writing
  • Does counselling on the side through church

37:41 – links and where to find Reneau

Website: www.rpeurifoy.com

Facebook: www.facebook.com/reneau.peurifoy

Amazon author page: www.amazon.com/Reneau-Z.Peurifoy/e/B001H6G9K6/ref=sr_ntt_srch_lnk_1?qid=1455145386&sr=8-1

LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/reneau-peurifoy-73a20b12

YouTube Channel: www.youtube.com/channel/UCSCyerIGxlgSf_8-U0UQ7lQ

39:19 – Outro

Den Of Pride Links:

iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/den-of-pride/id1246916445?mt=2

Facebook: www.facebook.com/groups/1751162245146222

Website: http://denofpride.com/

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