A Hard Decision to make…DOP Announcment!

That evolution came as a result of some hard decision making & it was not made easily, after all I have worked on & invested in this for over the past 2 years. It has used up to much of me…Time & Resources. It was also poor effort on my part. I did not show-up for this community.

To all of you who have supported DEN OF PRIDE through it’s growth, I am grateful & truly apprieciative. I hope you have made some strides to personal growth as a result of your time spent with us.

RJ Horner; Host & Curator will be shutting down DEN OF PRIDE. We will close it’s doors as of May 22, 2019. This website has run it’s course & the asset will not be renewed. It has been a wonderful learning & teaching experience & I now move on to the next phase of my journey.

Never fear, I will return. I now turn my focus to my own personal brand, building on my skills for the benefit of those who have a desire for betterment. I would like for you to meet The Man I have become. I have learned & grown into a passionate teacher & a thoughful leader. I will continue to share my journey of growth.

RJ Horner becomes The Man he was always meant to be. It is time to live the LIFE I’ve always wanted to live. I am taking people with me! I am carrying those willing to come along for the ride.

Life is strange. When you are handed a gift horse, don’t look it in the mouth, hop on board & run with it. I have been given that gift. I know my next steps & it requires my intense focus.

Today begins what is to be the better part of the LIFE of RJ Horner. I am on a mission. I am taking people along with me. Build BetterMENt along with ME!

Let me introduce to…


A Guide on YOUR Life Journey; Walking along with YOU through YOUR Personal Development Journey

RJ’s mission has evolved to include reaching the masses. It is time I take my mission & my message to the world.

BetterMENt of MANkind!

This mission is to build up mankind; working on myself & others who want to find Betterment!


Building Solid Structures to withstand the Force of Man!

I am working on my 1st published book. Working Title: Being “The Man”

This step is necessary for my growth as a teacher & to become a Better Man! Be a better part of the Universe. I can now just be better!

Stay Tuned: More to come from RJ Horner; LIFE MENTOR

Webinars, Summits, Mentor Interviews, YouTube & More

RJ Horner: Coaching Programs & Book Updates to come.

Want to know more?

RJ Horner can help YOU Live the LIFE YOU Always Wanted;

follow @rjhorner73

email: connect@rjhorner.ca

mission evolution

Every Mission is not written in stone. Nor is every message. Times change, life goes on, ooh-blah-dee…ooh-blah-dah…

The mission, like anything else can evolve. Time does not stop & each minute is a moment in time. If we are to live each life to the fullest, then we are expected to go with the flow, living each moment. Because I have been living in the moment, listening to the guidance I receive, my mission has evolved.

I have learned & grown as a man. I have evolved, so must what I am expected to do as a man. Until I had the freedom to let go, I was trapped in the message. I have learned so much from the PD Gurus: John Maxwell, Tony Robbins, Jim Rohn, Zig Ziglar, Brian Tracy…etc.

Soon came a time when I should pass on that knowledge to those who could benefit from such powerful words but may not be getting access to the message. I was the message…carrying on where the masters are leaving us. Sad tidings, but someone must carry on their work.

Listening to the Universal calling, I was able to ascertain what the Universe had in mind for me…

If you listen, you will hear the calling, don’t people fool you into believing that only chosen people can communicate with the source. I listen now. My senses are open to all communications, for the messages they contain.

That open-mind led to the next phase of my leadershift evolution. I was to broad-minded to be of any use to this inundated marketplace. I had to niche-down. I had to focus on a smaller element to reach the greatest numbers.

Then I was given another directive. One that was meant as an offering if I was wise enough to take it. It was when I heard these words, “Life coaches are born at theses events.” ~ Chris Brady; Life Leadeship Founder & CEO.

I truly envisioned where I was going. I knew now what I was supposed to be doing, who I was supposed to be helping & how. I am prepared to teach life-balance to Men frustrated with life & living. But I have always wanted to help greater numbers & I am a perfectionist…if you are going to do any thing at all, it better be perfect.

One thing I learned early on was that for something to change, for me to change it required 3 things;

  1. Willingness to change
  2. Desire to become better
  3. Immediate Action

I have come to accept those terms as standard. That is how a mission evolves. It began somewhere with a purpose in mind. Now it is time to allow it to continue its transitional evolution to it’s newest phase that will allow me to grow & for me to aid the right people in their growth.

This is my flow…

My evolution as a Leader, Coach & Mentor is revealed. I introduce you to…


BetterMENt of MANkind!

Building Solid Foundations for Structures that withstand the force of MAN!

Introducing RJ to DOP!

I am RJ Horner, Host and curator in the Den of Pride.

I’m a Bus driver by profession, because that’s what you do right?  You get a get a good job, get good grades in school, work hard to earn a good living. 

Bullshit!  I’d hardly call it living. 

This is not living, at least not a living I want, much longer.  I am not in it the way I used to be.  It is a living that I am proud of though.  I work for a company that has a strong reputation and does a damn good job in a major metropolis.  It is a job someone could be proud of, I used to be, but that is just not satisfying me anymore. 

I was once happy when I started this job.  I was happy to be working for such a prominent company.  After all, I had earned it.  I had worked my way up, putting in my share of the worst of the lot; working nights, working for $7, $10, $12, doing what it took to earn a living on whatever job I was qualified for.  I earned my right to be here.  I gained my B license, then became a driving instructor for B & E licenses.  I trained school bus drivers.  I was proud then. 

When I first started my job I was proud, and happy to be there, finally I had achieved my place.  Because I was happy, I sent people off on their day with a smile & a kind word.  I truly cared for my passengers and it showed. 

Life was great.  I had a great job, for great pay, with benefits, life insurance and a pension.  I had made it.  I WAS PROUD!  That was demonstrated in my attitude and my behaviour. 

Soon though, something changed. 

Life changed, and it hit me, hard.  Life got really-hard, really-fast.  It began to go quickly down hill.  Soon things would get well beyond my control.  If you stay with me, you will learn more about the strangling, stress-filled down turn that life took on.  I may never tell the whole story, it’s not exactly mine to tell, yet you will learn the struggles and the pain that I went through.  Things got tough, impossibly hard to deal with. 

Life has a way of working itself out, but at the time I couldn’t see that, I couldn’t see it that way.  When you are blindsided, you are blinded by life, by all the terrible and viscous things that are circling your life right now. 

These are your problems and they just won’t go away.  At the time, I was sad, depressed, and angry…very angry.  

I was the one who had changed.  My personality had changed. 

At the time I was a very angry man. 

Angry with my life.

Angry with the world, for putting me there. 

Angry at anyone and everyone…

…except myself, the one person who needed to bare the responsibility. 

That anger would affect everyone and everything around me.  It would take over my life.  It would soon have life falling apart, people were pushing me away and I was in danger of losing the one person who chose to support me through all life’s battles. 

Resulting from life’s failings, my job began to change. 

I began struggling through my job, getting in trouble far too often.  It became a normal occurrence.  I was always being disciplined.  I began to feel disillusioned at work and no longer wanted to be there.  I still don’t, to this day I must say. 

Finding myself dissatisfied and disillusioned, the job and the difficulties in my life began to change me.  I wanted more.  I was bored with my job and angry with my life.  Began to get angry with those around me. 


This went on for a long time.  Frustrated & angry that I was not living up to my potential, yet not taking any action toward the betterment that I so desired.  Questioning, wondering, stammering through this period of turmoil, but not finding answers because the questions I asked were not worth answering. 

For a long time, I had to struggle with the fact that if I hoped to grow then I would have to make the changes to become better myself.  I would need to work on me, because as my boss put it at the time, “If there seems to be a consistent problem, you might need to consider where the problem is.”

I was the problem!

When I began to understand that, I began to accept responsibility for myself…for who I was.  That was the changing factor in my life. 

Asking the right questions, because I was now blaming the right person. 


I am RJ Horner! 

I know who I am!

I know where I am going!

I know what I am doing to get there!

Join me in the DEN OF PRIDE!

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New Dawn

Everyday is an opportunity for something new, to do things differently…a clean slate.

This holds true with the New Year as well. It is a chance to start over, do those little something’s that you always wanted to but just kept putting off: Go on a trip, Take the road less travelled, Join the gym, Lose some weight, Start a savings, Invest some money, Start a business or Get your business running right.

That is what 2019 means to me. I am going to get my venture operating at a highly profitable margin. I am going to gain the experience of profiting from business.

I must remind myself that it is ok to profit from the value you offer.

Who determines what value I offer?

You! The Marketplace. Buyers of products & services.

That suggests I must demonstrate my value to YOU!

I do have my services to offer & some products, even training yet to come. But for YOU to want to buy from me, YOU must know, like & trust me. You need to believe that I hold the value I claim to represent.

New Year gives me the opportunity to reboot once again. Not for the 1st time but I continue to do what I must until I get this right.

So I start at the Dawn of a New Year. Keep Moving Forward…2019 will be an Abundantly Amazing Year for RJ Horner & DEN OF PRIDE.



keep moving forward…until i get it right!

I had some comments recently from a reader that liked my work, they became a believer in what I do but somewhere along the line they say they lost that vibe, perhaps because they saw I was trying to turn this into a business. 

To any & all who join the PRIDE! Make no mistake I am doing this for the betterment of man, & by extension for myself.  I am also trying to make this a Full-Time Venture.  I want to make this what I do, day in & day out, I want to help people before they get to where I was, mentally, physically & spiritually.

I would not wish that on anyone, to be so low that there is no one there to grab you & pull you out. I was one snap away from being the guy on the corner who bums change & trying to stay warm.  That is why I do what I do, & share the messages I do.  To keep people out of the gutter, to keep them from even getting near the precipice that I was.

Should anyone question the validity of my integrity, I must ensure that I am a man who believes in the value of each individual who creates this great Universe.  Together we are better than one, but we are better together if each of us is better.

So I Keep Moving Forward.  Doing what I must, striving to become better, daily.  I am man doing what he must, that is all we can do, what we must.  Step up & do what needs doing.  That is where I get my strength, from the fact that I survive, again & again.  I get through, sometimes unscathed.  Keep going!

I cannot say that I always get it as I get it wrong often enough.  But regardless of the outcome, I can do no less than keep going.  Knowing that persistence is a major key in growing better & stronger.  

I am strong mentally, getting stronger spiritually, but now must turn my attentions o my physical being.  I am not as strong as I wish to be, with still much to grow.  If I aim to be a man who does what must be done then I must stand & deliver.  I must stand tall, stepping into the footprints that are waiting for me.  

I have built this platform to serve those who seek a better life.  I seek betterment, for myself & for others wherever possible.  I am here to aid whoever finds the way to this path.  Seek to become better.  Seek to strive to be more, do more & become.  

Keep Moving Forward, regardless of the mystery that lay before you.  Stand tall & walk the path that is laid before as you must.  you have little choice but to Keep Moving Forward trying to just get it right.

Experience Independence

This was sent to me in an email campaign today & I felt you might benefit from this article.  As the US Celebrate Independence Day this week, they consider their fight for Separation from the British Rule.

This article offers advice on some things that you would benefit from implementing a separation or independence.  Please Read below this article from David Newman of Do It Marketing.


Speaker’s Declaration of Independence

To celebrate Independence Day here in the US, here are 17 articles of the “Speaker’s Declaration of Independence.”

  1. You are independent of “being chosen” and will proactively reach out to highly targeted prospects with a value-first message to ask how you can help them.
  2. You are independent of “small potatoes” thinking and doing and you are free to think big – and act bigger (courtesy @JeffreyHayzlett)
  3. Your fees are independent of any prospect’s budget. What they “can afford” has zero to do with what you deserve to earn based on the value you deliver.
  4. You are independent of being stuck, stymied, and confused. You are free to DECIDE and DEFINE exactly what problems you solve and exactly what people you serve.
  5. You are independent of “waiting for someday” for your speaking-driven business to become what you always wanted it to be. Your time is now and your opportunities are limited only by your imagination.
  6. You are independent of “one size fits all” business models. Keynoters are no better (or richer) than trainers, seminar leaders, coaches, consultants, facilitators, online course creators, etc. The business model that fits is the business model that pays (and lasts.)
  7. You are independent of “shiny object syndrome” and you are free to focus relentlessly on MMA (Money-Making Activity) to connect with the right prospects who want you to solve the right problems at the right fee.
  8. You are independent of tactic-itis because you know that random tactics lead to random results. You are free to put the right strategies in place that lead to coordinated tactics, action steps, and results.
  9. You are independent of being treated like a commodity. You are free to boldly claim your topic, niche, target market, and specialization as an expert who speaks professionally.
  10. You are independent of impostor syndrome. You are free to embrace the entirety of your expertise, experience, past jobs, past careers, skills, insights, and hard-won wisdom and bring 100% of those assets to bear on delivering massive value to your hand-selected group of extremely lucky high-paying clients.
  11. You are independent of “local-yokel” status. You are free to drop your Chamber membership, stop taking local gigs for peanuts, and stop playing small in your own backyard. National experts market and sell nationally, and are in high demand regardless of geography.
  12. You are independent of sales reluctance. You are free to open relationship-building conversations with highly targeted prospects who are actively seeking solutions to the urgent, pervasive, expensive problems you’re already brilliant at solving.
  13. You are independent of the competition. You are free to zig where they zag and you are free to shift your positioning, packaging, and messaging so that you truly become a “Category of One” (courtesy @JoeCalloway)
  14. You are independent of “random acts of marketing.” You are free to laser focus on only high-probability prospects because you’re a student of the game and know exactly who to connect with, what they want, and where to find them. You “fish where the fish are” (courtesy @CoreyPerlman)
  15. You are independent of your partner or spouse’s lack of belief and support for your entrepreneurial journey. You are free to openly discuss what you’re doing, why it’s important to you, and how you’re going to recommit (now – right now!) to making this a real business and not a hobby by getting dead serious about your revenue generation.
  16. You are independent of the “feast or famine” revenue rollercoaster. You are free to build a high-fee speaking-driven business that generates a consistent flow of leads, clients, and cash and creates the lifestyle you envisioned when you first started your entrepreneurial adventure.
  17. You are independent of fear, uncertainty, and doubt. You are free to build your speaking-driven business as a decisive, committed action-taker who never spends a moment in hesitation (courtesy @RussRuffino) and who is 1,000% focused on daily action, traction, and results.

— David

David Newman :: Do It! Marketing


JUNE 29, 2018






It is a day I have been preparing for; I have been working on; working in the business of personal development for more than a couple of years.  This adventure is coming to it’s climax.  I am about to LAUNCH!  27 Days & counting down.

DEN OF PRIDE!  A community for the development of individuals & society as a direct benefit.  The better you become, the better we ALL become.  By you I mean the millions of people who strive to become better everyday.

That is the only purpose of society…to become better.  Do Better today than you did yesterday & strive to be better tomorrow than you are today.

If you strive to become the better YOU!  YOU BECOME A BETTER YOU!



  • UBU
  • The PASSION to truly LIVE!
  • The POWER to be YOU!
  • The PRIDE to own YOU!

I am planning some special things for our DEN OF PRIDE; LONG WEEKEND, LIVE LAUNCH on Canada Day Long Weekend.

JUNE 29 – JULY 2


* Live interviews

* Webinar

* Man on Street.


Want to become better? Want to become more? Want to feel better & stronger, more capable?

DEN OF PRIDE can help with that

Join the PRIDE!



FB Community:


What will you learn in the PRIDE!

– Balanced LIVING…Mind, Body & Soul.

– Education, Knowledge, Training…

  • Self directed,
  • Purpose driven
  • Passionately pursued

…Bring fortune & success.

– Your Life, Lived Your Way = Your Happiness!


– Change is inevitable, resistance is futile!  The PRIDE will show you why!

– Failure only happens when you give up!

–  Leadership; Self & others; win-win.

What will you become in the PRIDE?

– Become YOU!

– A Better YOU, Daily!

–  A confident, more capable you!

– A trusting & believing you!

–  Member/belonging to a community/PRIDE

–  Strong Leader

  • In the PRIDE
  • In your community


In the DEN OF PRIDE we have no competition.  It’s a WIN-WIN for ALL!

(Details to follow)





10 Days to LAUNCH

Here we are 10 Days from the RE-LAUNCH of the DEN OF PRIDE Podcast.



A reboot, an upgraded version. of the original

Today we discuss the 5 W’s of DEN OF PRIDE.


RJ Horner; Host & Curator in the Den of Pride.

I am RJ Horner, curator of wisdom.  I bring you not only the wisdom I have amassed, but that which our guest experts have gained through their journey.


Den of Pride is a interactive & supportive Community for Personal Development focused on building Confidence & PRIDE.  We see too many people who are not satisfied with the life they are living or just unhappy with their lot in life.  Not knowing or realizing that they are the cause of this mosfortune.

DEN OF PRIDE’s mission:  Inspire Change, Empower Growth, Deliver Value


DEN OF PRIDE is just 10 days away from the FB LIVE LAUNCH WEEKEND!  From June 29 – July 2, we ill be hosting FB LIVE Promo Interviews with our Guest Experts.  Stay Tuned in the Den Of Pride FB Group for that Schedule.

After June 29, you will receive a new episode every Friday to download over the weekend to take with you each week.  DEN OF PRIDE PODCAST IS released Every Friday, 1 per week.

Where?  You can find DEN OF PRIDE Podcast in iTunes.  You can find the DEN OF PRIDE Community in the FB Group, which can be found by seaching DEN OF PRIDE on FB.  You can find our blog, podcast, A/V lessons & Podcast Interviews on our website; www.denofpride.com


Why did we create DEN OF PRIDE?

I find that too many people are lacking & wanting more.  They do not often realize the reason for their state.  They are not aware they have a problem or perhaps if they do, not what that problem is.  They blame outside, unseen forces for their circumstances, yet the first thing they must realize is; they are the problem or at least responsible for it.

I find the number 1 thing that prevents people from beingall that they want is a lack of confidence or a belief in their abilities.  DEN OF PRIDE was created to instill the believe that you are more, you are the only one who can be you, you are theo only one living your life.  You are 100% responsible for who you are.


We will delvier our messages through our…

  • Podcast, with Solo & Guest Interviews
  • Blog with informative advice and guidance
  • A/V Lessons
  • Coaching & Mentors (Coming Soon)

Join the PRIDE:  www.denofpride.com

…for Sign-up to receive our Newsletters & Updates


DEN OF PRIDE 2.0; Coming Soon.

Only 1 month away: June 1, 2018

Our platform DEN OF PRIDE has been growing over the last year.  We have been working on how best to serve the community.  Our podcast started almost 1 year ago.  Quickly overwhelmed, the podcast did not survive.

Rather than quit, as was my normal practice.  “I failed, that’s it.  I quit!”  This time I ensured that this program would return.  I felt the value in this program & I spent a lot of time making it work.  What would work, how do I make it work, how do I best serve this community.

I found that engagement was the best practice.  By getting out there and being visible, you can increase your engagement to help those people who need it most.  By just being there and aiding people with what is needed most, you are reaching your audience.

I have spent considerable time engaging, while building up the community, our programs & features.


Join the PRIDE!

FB Group:  www.facebook.com/groups/1751162245146222/

Website:  www.denofpride.com


What you can expect in the DEN OF PRIDE:

  • Online FB Community (entry, engagement forum)
    • FB Live
      • DOP Guests
      • Mentors
      • #SHARE
      • Expert Panels
  • Podcast DEN OF PRIDE, 2.0
    • Guest interviews,
    • Thought leaders,
    • PD experts
    • Expert Panels
  • Audio & Video Lessons/Commentary
    • Personal Findings & commentary by RJ Horner & Experts
  • Journey Of Men
    • Access to Programs from Industry Experts
    • Document the Journey Of Men
    • Documentary offered to our audience.
    • Proof of Concept for programs/courses
  • Monthly Mentors
    • Webinars
    • 1-on-1 Coaching
    • Clients Choose their Monthly Mentors
    • Up to 3 Mentors for up to 3 months.

“I shall return.”  ˜  General Douglas McArthur (Korean War)

Coming Soon:  DEN OF PRIDE; 2.0

JUNE 1, 2018,

Join the PRIDE!

FB Group:  www.facebook.com/groups/1751162245146222/

Website:  www.denofpride.com


You are Invited

Join Our Community:

We would like to officially invite you to join our community forum of peer support for the purpose of growth & personal development.

DEN OF PRIDE is a community forum for people to positively interact and support each other.  In a world of negativity and aggression, it is imperative to provide all the positive reinforcement that can be managed.

DEN OF PRIDE was created to help people discover their true potential.  Few people are confident enough in their abilities to feel PRIDE in their accomplishments.  It is our hope that we can help people discover their full potential and grow into themselves so they might discover the life of their dreams.  This community forum is a portal to a better life.

Here you will find value added content & the support of your peers.  We are committed to bringing you valuable content from rich resources. Content from all available resources. Coaches and Thought Leaders are not our competition, they are an invaluable resource that will bring you tips, tools & techniques to help you get to where they are.  We exist to help you grow & develop into the person you were always meant to be.

In the DEN OF PRIDE, you will;

Discover your Purpose, Embrace your Passion, Harness Your Power, Feel your PRIDE.

As of June 1, 2018; Den of Pride Podcast will return.  As of May 2018, you may join us daily inside the Den of Pride FB Groupwww.facebook.com/groups/1751162245146222/

We are currently working on a content plan to provide more value to our community.  You will find us daily as we host daily features:

Daily FB Live begins May 2018; 

  • #SHARE over Coffee & Conversation, 10:30am Daily
  • Wednesday WOW (Words Of Wisdom), Wednesday @ Noon
  • Reflections, Friday @ Noon

You are invited to join our community forum in the DEN OF PRIDE, built to add value, through positive support & encouraging growth.

DEN OF PRIDEInspire Change! Empower Growth! Deliver Value!

To my faithful followers, I ask 2 things for today.

  1. #SHARE this post:  Help me #SHARE this message.  There are people out there who will benefit from this community forum & the wisdom it offers.  There are some out there who need to hear our message.  Please #SHARE!
  2. Offer Feedback:  Let’s start off the conversations and the interaction.  If you have found value in this community please #SHARE HereDEN OF PRIDE FB Group!

We welcome you into our Community Forum: DEN OF PRIDE!


Coming Soon! Den of Pride 2.0

Den of Pride will be returning, better than ever!

Interview Requests: Email – rjhorner@denofpride.com

After a much needed hiatus, Den of Pride will be back.

Blog/Vlog, Podcast and Community Forum after undergoing improvements, will return soon.

When?  June 2018


Website:  www.denofpride.com

FB Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1751162245146222/

Interview Requests: Email – rjhorner@denofpride.com

Why?  We believe that it is our duty to improve both as individuals and as a society.  it is our mission to help people build confidence so they may achieve their dreams.

How?  Interviews, Recorded and Live Forum Discussions and Video Lessons on…

  • Personal Development,
  • PRIDE & Confidence,
  • Better Living

RJ Horner, Host of the Den of Pride podcast will be conducting interviews as of April 2018.  Are you interested in being a guest & sharing your story?  We want to hear from you; email below…

Interview Requests:  Email – rjhorner@denofpride.com

What are you proud of?  Tell us!

We will be holding discussions with industry leaders from all fields and all walks of life, with many specialties that you may find useful.  We are also interested in interviewing John & Jane Doe.  We want to talk with everyone who has overcome battles, general public and experts alike.

Pride and confidence come from living life.  We want to talk to you, about life, living and the PRIDE you feel at having overcome adversity.

Interview Requests: Email – rjhorner@denofpride.com

Some things we must accept as fact:

  1. Failures will happen.
  2. Adversity is our friend.
  3. Nothing has meaning except the meaning we give it.
  4. We have a responsibility to maintain our response ability.
  5. We are responsible for almost everything in life that happens to us.

Let’s talk.  Let’s have conversations in the Den of Pride.


FB Group Den of Pride:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1751162245146222/

Let the conversations begin!

Follow me:

FB – https://www.facebook.com/hornerrj

Twitter – @rjhorner73

Interview Requests: Email – rjhorner@denofpride.com


Life’s a journey!  Join us!

Interview Requests: Email – rjhorner@denofpride.com


Let’s Talk: HELP ME!

On the tails of the Bell Let’s Talk Campaign, I have been newly inspired.

I am RJ Horner!  I know who I am! I know where I am going! I know what I am doing to get there!

That didn’t happen over night.  That came about after long years of recovery of a disease that I had little control of but I later learned is curable or at least manageable.

I want to help people realize that life is a journey & that they are totally capable of living a peaceful, happy, almost blissful life.  It is hard to believe when you are in the depths of despair, but life can & will get better, if you let it, maybe even help it along.  I am living proof that life will get better.  I am not the same angry man who started this journey 6 years ago.

This article represents the struggle that people have to go through in changing their behaviour & attitude.  It is a struggle to believe.  It is a struggle to even believe a different life is possible.

So…Let’s Talk:  Help!


Used together these are two of the most powerful words in the English language. If you find yourself in a position where you need to use them these words will get you what you need. These two words when uttered together will change your life. They will bring about change on such a grand scale that you could not measure its results. These simple two words will take away much of the pain you are experiencing. These two short words will bring the world to your door, carrying their tools willing to create a foundation to help you build up your dreams.
That’s why you would dare to say them out loud in the first place. You are in a place you would have never experienced before. You are in the worst place of your life, someplace that many can never imagine, and most would never wish to be. You are alone, failing and falling, there is no one you can turn to, or so it seems. This is the place and the time to ask for HELP, if ever there was one. YOU NEED HELP!

Look up, just for a moment. You will see the faces of those who will help you out of the depths in which you find yourself. You see, right now you have dug yourself into a ditch that is unrecoverable (alone). You cannot see any way out of this hole, but there is. Even if you have chased everyone in your life away there are people, maybe even near you right now, that will help you, if you are not too afraid or too obstinate to use those powerful words.
If you are anything like me, you have been told for a considerable amount of time, that you need help.
“You are angry.”; “You are chasing everyone away.”; “You are hurting those closest to you.”
These are but a few, such words may be making you feel horrible and worthless. These are the signs that life as you know it is coming to a head. Life is about to get a whole lot worse. This is what I call the ‘safety net’. This is what you hear and feel before you hit rock-bottom, a place that none of us wish to find ourselves. I was very fortunate enough to fall upon my ‘safety net’.
Have you ever fallen upon a safety net? Do you now the feeling of relief and absolute gratitude, that things are not as bad as they most certainly could have been. Imagine what would have happened if that safety net was not there.
I was relieved, thankful and grateful that I could now look up at what I had done, knowing that I could do something to correct it and find my way out of this place I had created. I knew that now, it was up to me to make amends for the distrust and disdain that I was responsible for. Did you hear that, “I was responsible!” You are responsible for every action that takes place in your life. Only You!
Only you can possibly seek the help you need, and yet often you don’t know what help you need, or why. Sometimes you don’t even know that you do need help. Other times, you know you need help and don’t believe you should ask for it. Worst of all you know you need help, you might even know the help you need, yet you don’t know who to ask or where to turn. I have been here before, so I know this dilemma intimately.
It is very fortunate that at the time here in Canada, when we annually acknowledge mental health awareness, I am reading a book that teaches you that you are not your mind; The Power of NOW, by Eckhart Tolle. The knowledge found in it’s pages has been a long time coming and I could have used it years ago. The fact remains though, that I would not have been receptive to the information because my mind was still in control. It does not have control today, and I will demonstrate why that is. It has been 5 years since I did the one thing that I was previously unable to do. I took a stand and said the two words that are so difficult to leave the lips of a human being. Words that someone dealing with mental health issues might not have been able to utter.
We have an even bigger challenge to our salvation at a time when we need it most. If we are in an ailing state of mind, one where we are forced to prostrate ourselves enough that we may dare to utter these words, nothing should stand in our way. We are in a delicate place because the longer we hesitate, the worse our circumstances become. We have little time to spare, so if we do find those that are willing to help us there is no time to waste.
There should be no debate that this is what we need, and this is the time and place to turn and ask for help. Knowing that, it is just a jump forward because like I said, this is the move that can change your life. Now is the time to act. So, if we have other challenges at this point then we have little hope of survival.
We know what we need in our lives right now. We might even know where to turn, there are people standing by to assist, ready to help us rebuild our lives from the ground up, a helping hand, out of the hole we have dug ourselves into. This is the time for action. Here! Now! Today!
What could possibly hold me up now?
Once you arrive at this point, the point of knowing what you need, and what you need is available to you, then you are the only obstacle standing in your way.
But you want help right, you have decided that, haven’t you?
You have decided that, but your ego has not!
Believe it our not your ego is separate from you. Your mind is not you, it is a tool to be used by you. Yet we know it is powerful beyond measure. How can we compete with that? It is your mind that is telling you that what you need to do is to stay the same. “Do not change me! I am perfect exactly as I am. Why do you want to change perfection?” If this powerful force is telling you that you should stay just where you are, doing just what you are doing, living this same dreadful life that is causing you so much pain, because you are perfect, how do you change that? How can you fight your mind?
Whether you realize it or not, you are not your mind. You can separate yourself from this tool that was only intended for you to be a strong force in your own right. You were meant to be a force to be reckoned with, by utilizing this mind as a CPU, not as the controlling factor. It should not be allowed to control you, but it should be possible for you to use the mind to achieve all your dreams, desires…and demands.
You control the mind, not the other way around. This is a fact, but most of us cannot see it. It is an illusion to our being. It remains hidden from us because our ego takes control at a very early age. It tells you what it wants, what it wants you to be, it wants you to do. It tells you what to do and how to behave. It controls your being. It does so because you allow it.
You allow your mind to take control of your being. You are a human being. That being controls everything. One of the first things I was told by my counsellor when I made the decision to ask for help was, “You need to take back the control.” At the time I did not have a deep enough understanding of what she was saying to me, except that I needed to control my behaviour. I did not know at that time that the ego was in control, as I do now.
Your ego really keeps you in the way of your optimum health & wellness. Your ego is your enemy in this and your ego is a part of you, but it is not you, you can control it. You must learn to control it if you are going to achieve this state of health. You must take control at least one area if you are going to make the powerful statement that is the basis of your recovery.
I am not sure how hard this is for women, but I do know that both men and women struggle with being able to ask for help. Male ego entrenches itself on a very deep level. It is what we refer to as the male bravado, or being macho. We believe that we are superior beings (to absolutely everyone else and every being) on the planet. We are supposed to own our being. But by being, there is no charge, there is just doing, living it as it is, in the moment.
This is what we forget from an early age as the ego takes control. We no longer have control of who we are. That control is taken over by the inner psyche that wants everything to just stay the same. Let just for a moment give you a basic secret of life, it cannot and does not stay the same. Because every atom is constantly in vibration, they are constantly revolving & evolving. Knowing that, could you not find that information useful, thus find it within your power to take control.
You must learn to go with the flow. Take life as it comes without interference from you. That is a hard concept to accept. It is a hard place to achieve for someone who is so bull-headed. I will tell you with absolute certainty that I was stubborn. Quite likely you are too. I was unwilling to accept many facts because I had my own internal beliefs. Those beliefs were not necessarily real, but my mind (ego) believed they were, or rather they told me they were. The ego was in control.
So, you need to be able on some level to start telling your ego what to do and what is real for you. This is the only way you will stand any hope of gaining control of your being. You must humble yourself, before others, but most of all it is your being that you must be humble for. You must drop your guard and forget these stubborn inferences that the ego is telling you. Shout out loud if you must (yes, this helps) the words, “I will not live this way anymore. I am in charge.”
Then and only then can you utter those vital words that are so dreaded to you now. Those words are so hateful to you because they are hateful to your ego. But if you do even one thing, it is to realize that your ego is not you, it is separate from you, then you can realize that you can take control slowly and consistently over time. Taking control of that ego by telling it, “You are not going to control me anymore.” Just so you can utter those words that you so desperately need to say.
This starts with just one step, if you take it, one day you will be whole again. You will be open enough to receive knowledge that today you would consider to be ridiculous or outrageous. The knowledge I have acquired since uttering those powerful, yet humbling words just 5 years ago cannot even compare to the things I have learned in my 40 years prior to taking this vital step.
I am RJ Horner! I know who I am! I know where I am going! I know what I am doing to get there!
I know me. I have found me. That is what I want for every other human being of this Universe. Whether you are unhappy, angry or not, most of us are unsatisfied with something in their lives. It is my mission & purpose to help as many as I can to find satisfaction, by living the life of their dreams
I do this by helping others find their PURPOSE, so they can embrace their PASSION, that they might harness their POWER, so they can develop their PRIDE.
RJ Horner

“I am good enough!” NLP Techniques changed my life forever!

My growth is never-ending.  I will continue to grow and learn, not stopping as long as I shall be able.  Life doesn’t stop so why should I?

I continue to absorb knowledge at an amazing rate, almost like a sponge.  I try to focus what I learn but I take knowledge as it comes.  I read whenever possible.  I listen to audiobooks and podcasts for the valuable information they provide.  I take courses and attend webinars and seminars.

This latest seminar I have attended; DESIGNING YOUR DESTINY was vital for my growth.  Prior to this seminar I had vowed that I would, “Turn my hand over to the Universe.”  I had no idea at the time that I would sign-up for their advanced training program, because I never do stuff like that.  I always pass, not taking action on such a waste of money.  My word, or resolution for 2017 was “Action”.  Well, I took action.

I say this course is advanced because this is the training that those influencers you follow most closely, whom you trust in their advice and guidance, would have received.  This is the training taken by such personalities as Tony Robbins, Oprah Winfrey, Dr. Phil, just to name a few.

If you want to know how to help yourself and others through the challenges we all face then this is the training that will offer the most value.    I am preparing myself for this exciting program.

Curious as to what this training is?  I know I was!  Now I know what I am in for.  From this training I will have the influence and the skills to help people achieve their dreams by removing the blockages that keep them from achieving success.  I can attest to the removal of blockage.  In one session with a guided exercise from a master trainer, I was able to remove my biggest blockage.

Prior to this exercise, I always felt that I was not capable and that I was not good enough…for anything.  I always felt that I was a failure and couldn’t do anything right.  In this one treatment, we did a group exercise to remove the one main blockage we have, they call it the “UN”  Mine was of course that I was unworthy; not good enough.

In this exercise you perform a ritual that helps you dissolve that blockage and install a new (opposite) programming that is more supportive.  As I mentioned, my “UN” was; “not good enough”.  After perform this technique I could instantly feel that something was different.

Now I truly believe in my deepest core that I felt different.  Now I do not even allow that thought to enter my psyche.  “I am good enough!”  This is my new supportive belief and I do not waver from it.  I know this to be true and knowing this there is nothing to stop me.  I am slowly getting out of my own way.

So, now are you curious?

This elite training is called; NLP – Neuro Linguistic Programming.

  • You learn about the mind and the internal working of the mind so that you can affect outcomes in the conscious mind by accessing what lies beneath in the unconscious mind.  Not only do you affect your own personal outcomes because you can self-perform these techniques, but you can utilize them with others to help them remove the blockages as well.

I am excited to announce that I am taking this training, I still must pay for it “In-Full” before I can take the class but I was given all of the program resources and have already begun my studies.

I had already decided that my career as a Writer, Speaker, Educator and Entrepreneur would require me to become a certified coach.  At the end of this coach I will be empowered to help others, not just in spirit, but as a fully certified with a designation as an NLP Practitioner.

I have visualized myself having this course “Paid-In-Full” by September 2018, allowing me to attend the week-long training session at that time.  I have visualized it.  I have turned my hand over to the Universe.  The Universe will provide.

I can do this!  I am good enough!



Upcoming Book: Attending Publishers Conference.

Remaining focused on my purpose, which is to help people remove the sruggle from their llfe and find their purpose, passion and power, I have now taken a new step forward

This weekend I am at a conference, meeting with publishers to discuss the arrangements for my first book to be published later this year with any luck, a whole lot of focus, direction and purpose.

It is a book about empowerment.  I will reveal the title to you shortly, as I firm up the details

The book is about my personal development journey and my desire to help others who find themselves where I once was.  “I once was lost, but now I’m found, was blind but now I see.”  When you take this journey of self-discovery, you cannot help but want to give back, or pay it forward, as the case may be.  I am better now and I want to help others to become better

That is the premise of the book in a nutshell; I do not want to give up the juicy details until I arrange the layout, and set up the first draft.  Once I have something more to offer, you will know more.

For now, just know that this is happening.  This is REAL.

I am the author of the upcoming book on empowerment.  I am meeting with a publisher this weekend; at a conference discussing the details.  #publishabook; @gerryrobert

As these conferences go, I cannot share the details or the goings-on at this event.

One thing I have been encouraged to share however, is this; captainancrewmovement.com

When we (captain) tell oursleves that something is impossible, life (crew) makes sure it impossible.  Make every effort to change your mindset and make life possible.  Stop telling yourself that things are impossible or that life sucks or you just can’t do this or can’t afford that.  Whatever you believe, life will “make it so #1.

Change your mindest; visit, captainandcrewmovement.com

Failure Equals Opportunity

The very first thing I want to tell you is that you have not been abandoned.  It is still my ultimate desire to help others find that confidence and power deep within themselves.  Each of us has the power within themselves to become a powerful force whether that be used for good or evil.


Our tagline remains the same;


Discover Your Purpose, Embrace Your Passion, Harness Your Power, Feel Your Pride!


In the DEN OF PRIDE we will always try to help you find what is right and good and help you discover those little things that everyone possess that make us beam with PRIDE.  I have taken that upon myself as my mission.


In the DEN OF PRIDE we aim to help others remove the struggle from their lives and find their true purpose through positive reinforcement and empowerment.  DEN OF PRIDE is a blog, Podcast and Community forum for support and positivity.


You might have noticed that the DEN OF PRIDE Podcast has not been published in many weeks.  We have taken a hiatus to get on the right track.  I continue to interview people on subjects of importance to those looking to find a better way that leads to their true path.  We are not gone forever, we are just temporarily away, recuperating and getting better.


I have failed, both you and myself in not honoring my commitment in posting valuable content for the betterment of others.  Now I could give up because I am a failure, as I would have in the past.  But if there is one thing I havve learned from my lesson, all these many years, it is that failure is just an opportunity.  It is an opportuinty to learn from my mistakes and become better.


I have been given a grand opportunity in that I have become aware of some of my failings:


  1.  I rushed into this by giving myself a commitment date that was not realistic.  It was barely over 2 months from the date I decided to launch DEN OF PRIDE as a podcast, unitl the date it hit the air.  I was not ready!
  2. I did not have enough content to offer my valued listeners and came up short and found myself wanting for interviews and recorded shows.
  3. I did not have the confidence that I was trying to demonstrate that all of us should possess.
  4. I was not prepared to offer you valued content myself.  I intended to offer up tales and wisdom of all of the valuable knowledge I have amassed through the recent years of my personal development journey, which by the way is never-ending.

Am I am fraud?  No!  I am a work in progress, as are we all.  I will keep working to become better as I encourage my listeners to always strive to become more.


“Don’t wish it were easier, wish you were better.”  ˜ Jim Rohn


I have failed, but I ahve gained invaluable insight into the workings of this business called personal development.   DEN OF PRIDE will be back (When? To Be Determined) and it will be stronger than ever.


Failure equals opportunity!




We are (NOT) LIVE!

I am still Proud!

This original article below was posted June 1, 2017.  It was posted when I launched our first episode of the DEN OF PRIDE PODCAST.  I have since recalled this LAUNCH.  I was not prepared and I rushed into it.  I was not seeing things clearly with all of the work involved in running a podcast.

My only thought at the time was to “Just Do It!”, as Nike suggests.  I wanted to commit myself to this project and take action.  This was new for me and I wanted to ensure I was committed, and I was.  I LAUNCHED DEN OF PRIDE PODCAST on June 1, 2017 as per my commitment.

However I was not ready and I apologize for appearing unprofessional.  I do want to be taken seriously, and I PROMISE a return of the DEN OF PRIDE PODCAST in the new year.

We are now committed to gaining experience and proper preparation before attempting a re-launch of the Podcast.  We are actively seeking new guests who have influence and authority in the field of personal development.

On the show DEN OF PRIDE PODCAST, we will discuss:


  • Discover your Purpose;
  • Embrace your Passion;
  • Harness your Power;
  • Express your Pride

How does your field or expertise apply to these subjects?  Are you interested in being a guest on our show?

Contact us at: rjhorner@denofpride.com


DEN OF PRIDE community forum is still up and running and I invite you to share your PRIDE here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1751162245146222/?ref=bookmarks

(Please note:  Article published June 1, 2017 has been retracted.)


I feel the PRIDE with the culmination of all I have worked for…in the DEN OF PRIDE!

Long awaited.  Highly anticipated…if only by me!  Den of Pride is officially a podcast.  We are a community dedicated to self improvement and personal development.

We offer ONLY positive encouragement and motivation for our fellow PRIDE members.

We exist to empower others to want more, be more, do more and become more.

Often people are oppressed, puched or kept down by those they love the most, who are acting in, “Your best interest”.  When in fact, as most people do, they are acting in their own best interest, because they don’t want you to get bigger then them, to be better then them.

In the Den of Pride we are equal and we encourage you and everyone around you to become more.  We hope to offer ways to help you manage that in others.  We want you to take your life into your own hands.

One of the first things I discovered on my journey of recovery was to take back the control over my own life, and by owning that and getting me back I was able to show others how to treat me.  I can show you to show others how to treat you.

There is much to learn and a long way to go.  It has taken me 5 years to get where I am.  Don’t expect instant results but if you do little things every day to become better than you were yesterday, you will become better than you are.  That is the main goal in life.  To become better today than you were yesterday and to be better tomorrow than you were today.

I am going to show you how to be confident in yourself…again, or for the first time if you might not have had that confidence to begin with.  Some never know just who they are and what they can do because they never reach just a little further.  You never know what you can do until you try.  TRY! TRY! TRY AGAIN!

My first couple of interviews in the Den of Pride Podcast stress that point.

Join us in the Den Of Pride!

Listen to our podcast here:


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